The BEST hands down no strings attached and SAFEST remote
access tool FREE for private personal use is TeamViewer.
You do not need to install it on either computer
, it can run in "stand alone", the QS runs stand alone, or the full version can be run stand alone or installed.
The QS is the host, the Full can run as host or client, and as long as they don`t get INSTALLED, just run, you can hide them or remove them, no uninstall needed, and never worry someone is hacking you.
Forget the BS needed to connect via remote
access tools in windows, and other applications, TeamViewer works for everyone, no settings to mess with, and no worries.
BUT, DO NOT INSTALL TEAMVIEWER HOST....... That is a special tool which will always be running when the host computer
is on. Use it to remotely control some computer you need to
access daily or very frequently like a server that you are the administrator of.
As for knowing who is connected to you, the best tool is in your computer
A dos prompt command line file supplied with Windows, with many switches, BUT you need to understand what connections you have are doing, what programs are using them, and how, plus the types of connections ie: UDP, TCP, remote
, local, and the knowledge of local and internet addressing and mapping.
To start learning it, click START, in the search box for Vista and 7, type CMD.EXE and hit enter, the black window that comes up witha curser blinking just type NETSTAT HELP, you will see a list of command strings and what each one does.
In XP click START, then click RUN, and type CMD and hit OK, then int eh black window type NETSTAT HELP you get the same things.....
Useing Netstat strings or switches;